1. I get calls all the time from cemeteries trying to sell me graves
and funerals. They even tell me I have won free graves or discounts, what should
I do?
Answer-Today there are few businesses that
do not use telemarketing, cemeteries are no exception. It is important to
remember that education is the best tool against bad decisions. Allowing a
salesperson to come into your home to sell you something you know little about
is an invitation for a bad investment. If you meet with any salesperson, take
their information and then talk to your family and friends and even a competing
business just to see if what you were told is true. Only do business with
someone you trust.
2. Why do
funerals cost so much?
Answer-According to the National Funeral Directors
Association, the average cost of a traditional funeral without cemetery expenses
and other cash advance items (such as flowers, newspapers, etc.) is $6,130.00.
This figure includes an average casket cost of $2330.00 and an outer burial
container averaging $950.00. This is a lot of money. The Federal Trade
Commission claims that after housing and vehicles, funerals are the largest
expense people incur. A funeral homes overhead and operating expenses include
facilities, upkeep, utilities, vehicles, and personnel. We work very hard to
keep our operating costs down, so that the cost of the funeral is fair to each
family. There are a number of ways to reduce this average listed above by
choosing arrangements that do not include so many expenses. Please remember,
that a family does NOT get a better funeral if they spend more money. We give
the same service no matter if a family chooses our most expensive or least
expensive casket.
3. Is prearranging my funeral
a good idea?
Answer-Yes. This is
one of the best decisions a person can make. I can list reasons such as
prearranging makes things easier for those you leave behind, you get to make
your own choices, you pay today's funeral cost, and you will spend less on your
own funeral than your children or spouse will if they are selecting for you.
Prearranging one's own funeral would be done by everybody if it were not such a
hard thing to do. Let's face it, who wants to pick out their own casket? There
really are two ways to prearrange. The first is to just make the decisions and
submit information, I call this Pre-information. The second is to actually
finance the arrangements you select. The advantage to financing is that you
receive a guarantee from the funeral home that the funeral arrangements you
selected and paid for will never cost your family any more than the original
investment and the interest it has earned. With financing there are several
options, such as single payments, interest free financing, trust accounts and
insurance. Each of these can be explained by simply contacting us at any time.
Also, please remember that 100% of the money you use to finance the funeral is
always yours and it cannot be touched without a death certificate (This is not
always the case if the prearrangement was made by a cemetery or other
corporation). So if anything ever happened to the funeral home you invested
with, you would not lose your investment. More questions?
Call.
4. I have already prearranged my funeral
with another funeral home, am I locked into using that funeral home?
Answer- No. One of the advantages about
prearranging your funeral that few people realize is that you still have freedom
to choose a different funeral home. Many people move away after prearranging, or
choose to change for personal reasons and the process is very simple. All you
have to do is contact the funeral home you would like to change your
arrangements to and they will have you sign one or two forms which completes the
whole process. Actually, this process can be done right at the time of need if
necessary by the next of kin. This is a common procedure and one that we do
often. If this is something that interests you, please feel free to contact us
and we will do everything from there.
5.
My mother wants cremated, what should I do?
Answer-This is becoming a more popular
option each year. I often hear people say "when I die, I've told my family to
JUST cremate me." It is important to realize that cremation is not a lesser
option. Many people choose cremation for a variety of reasons. Most times that a
family chooses cremation, they still have visitation and the cremated remains
are later interred in a cemetery. The best answer for me to give to this
question is for you to sit down with a licensed funeral director so that they
may explain the many options involved with the choice of
cremation.
6. If I buy my casket from someone
else is there a risk?
Answer-It
is illegal for any funeral home to not accept or to charge more to accept a
casket purchased from an outside vendor. However, the Federal Trade Commission
does allow a funeral home to offer package pricing of services that may be
offered only if the merchandise is purchased from the funeral home. Pretty
confusing isn’t it? What all of this says is that you need to be educated before
making any purchases. Compare the price of caskets from several vendors before
you sign the contract. There are many expenses involved in the whole cost of a
funeral, the casket is just one of them. And while the casket was traditionally
the main area of profit for the funeral director, that has now changed. With
that in mind, the funeral home price of the casket should be the same or may
even be less than many other vendors.
7. What do
I do with Social Security, Pension, Insurance and other paperwork?
Answer-This is a very important question.
When you select a funeral home, the answer to this question should already be
known. We make sure every family understands that part of the service we offer
includes helping every family with this paperwork. Not only do we notify
insurance companies, employers, and others, we also visit the home after the
claim forms have arrived to help that family fill out the forms. Many of these
forms are very confusing so it is our job to help. We also may have to make
visits to the Social Security office, or to the AAA to help change car titles.
The reason you should already know the answer to this question before choosing a
funeral home, is because this service before, during, and after the funeral is
the most important thing to the surviving family.
8. My husband died out of state what should I do?
Answer-Unfortunately this happens at times
and it may make a horrible situation even worse. In most states, funeral homes
operate a little differently. In many states that attract older people during
our Winter months the funeral homes often have two price structures. One price
is for a family that requests their services and the other price is for the
receiving funeral home. If a family is not having any services in the state
where the death occurred, then it is best to contact the funeral home back home
and let your funeral director make all of the necessary arrangements. The
difference in cost could be quite significant.
9. Does it cost more to have a funeral in the church instead of the
funeral home?
Answer-First let me
remind you that every funeral home has different pricing. However in our case we
do not charge any additional fees to have the funeral service in church. In
fact, it is my opinion that if someone has been a faithful member of their
church it is only appropriate that their service is held somewhere that has
significant meaning in their life. The funeral home offers an alternative place
for a funeral service if a family chooses.
10.
Are there any ways that I can personalize the funeral?
Answer-Yes. We offer many ways a family
may pay tribute to certain aspects of a loved ones life. Most of these options
are at no additional cost. For example, we have several display boards for
photos and mementos such as medals or ribbons. Also at no cost, we offer
optional hardware on some caskets that display certain hobbies such as
gardening, fishing, golfing, and other emblems representing religious, veteran,
or fraternal organizations. There is a number of different options for casket
lid panels or engraving on caskets including each branch of military service.
Today more than ever, we are seeing an increase in
families wishing to personalize the funeral and at RL Sanders we are here to
help you.
Hugh Lawrence Sanders